A Dramaholic is anyone who thrives off of - and creates - drama to fill the void in their life. Someone addicted to creating drama due to their lack of a life. Instead of focusing on something meaningful and doing something with their life, they would rather make up elaborate plots and plans, try to make others lives miserable, and lie their asses off to people to gain attention.
Loves gossip and rumors.
Interview With 12-Step Researcher Anette Schuster
DETECTING YOUR DRAMAHOLISM
1. If you have participated in Expand The Box training and a Possibility Lab or two, and Low Drama is still happening in your life, is is possible that you are a Dramaholic, deeply preferring the comfortable familiarity of Low Drama over the new territory of Adulthood.
2. If are not in a long-term relationship now because, "It is easier to be alone," then possibly your are a Dramaholic.
3. If you have been terminated from jobs due to being argumentative, lost relationships and friends due to conflicts, found yourself thinking of suicide (even if ever-so-briefly...), you may be a Dramaholic.
4. If experiencing living with a partner or housemates in a space without Low Drama, you get a sense that something is wrong, or feel lack of 'aliveness' in you.
5. If you keep scores in your relationship.
6. If you judge or criticize others frequently, even in your head.
7. If Low Drama or conflict seem to follow you.
8. If you carry the belief that people in your life need to change for your relationships to improve.
9. If you feel closer or more attached to someone during or after conflict.
10. If you often take things personally.
11. If you often choose to be right over of being with the other people.
12. If you have tendencies for compulsion, impulsivity, and addiction.
DRAMAHOLISM IN THE PHYSICAL BODY
Tendency for physical explosions or implosions resulting in the throwing of objects, slamming of doors, acting self-harm, physical abuse, sexual abuse, isolation or self or others, eating or shopping frenzy, binge or restriction. Bitting nails or pulling your own skin, hair, scratching your skin until you bleed, having little accidents that keep you bruised or big accidents where you break your bones, or have stomach problems or skin rashes.
DRAMAHOLISM IN THE INTELLECTUAL BODY
Tendency for psychological abuse, racism, sexism, classism, victim thinking (creating a predictive 'doom and gloom' story based on past experience), obsessive thinking (going over an experience in our mind more than once or twice), egocentricity –everything has happened to you or is happening to you, for you and because of you. Tendency for fantasies about killing other people or where others are dying in order to resolve a problem. Tendencies for fantasies about dying or being ill so that others would feel guilty or remorse.
DRAMAHOLISM IN THE EMOTIONAL BODY
Tendency for emotional outbursts from unconscious anger, sadness, fear, or joy. Tendencies for outwardly or inwardly arguing, yelling, criticizing, blaming, complaining, impulsivity, unmotivation, uninspiration, ambivalence, indecision, resentment, creating intrigue.
Tendencies for a strong sense of urgency where everything seems big or hugely important, especially if there has been no high-intensity emotions of feelings coming up.
In relationship this looks like looking for signs of betrayal or carrying the sensations of displeasure as a way of keeping score, so you can then take revenge. The revenge can look like continuously creating subtle or not subtle emotional 'attacks' towards your partner; usually criticizing, making demeaning comments (even in joking), or that infer a lack of consciousness, intelligence, care, directly to the partner or to someone else with the partner. To minimise or 'poop' on your partner's excitement and enthusiasm about a topic or a hobbie.
DRAMAHOLISM IN THE ENERGETIC BODY
Cravings for power, control, domination, escape, outcomes, for making others understand, listen or agree with you. Dissociation, creating moves that use sexual energy in subtle and not subtle ways to invade other people's space, either by moving